Why did my loved one become involved with the ERW?

One of the first things that is often asked by parents and loved ones that reach out to us, is why did their loved one become involved with extremism?

Although we may not be able to offer an answer with regards to that specific individual, we do know that there are many reasons why people become involved, and once we outline these then it can offer a deeper understanding and reduce the blame and responsibility that is often felt by those that are close to the individual involved.

So why do people become involved?

People become involved in extremism due to a mix of personal reasons and vulnerabilities (like alienation, low self-esteem, trauma, or discrimination) and external influences (like extremist peers, family, or online propaganda) that offer a powerful sense of purpose, identity, and belonging, often exploiting feelings of grievance or injustice. Radicalizing groups exploit these needs, grooming individuals through manipulation, offering simplistic answers, and creating a strong in-group community.

Vulnerability Factors (Push Factors) are

●      Personal Struggles: Low self-esteem, social isolation, major life changes (loss, job loss), trauma, or personal experiences with abuse or bullying.

●      Sense of Injustice: Feelings of discrimination, marginalization, anger, or humiliation due to personal experiences or broader societal issues.

●      Identity & Belonging: Difficulty finding a place, exploring identity, or a need for a stronger sense of purpose and community.

●      Background Issues: Previous involvement in crime, family tensions, or experiences with racism.

External Influences (Pull Factors) are

●      Grooming: Online or in-person manipulation and exploitation by extremist recruiters.

●      Social Networks: Influence from family, friends, or community members who promote extremist views.

●      Online Exposure: Constant access to extremist propaganda, videos, and fake news via social media.

●      Ideological Appeal: Extremist groups provide clear answers, a sense of empowerment, and a strong group identity.

Sadly, emotions and vulnerabilities are often the pathway into extremism. Whether looking for an outlet, someone who understands or looking for answers. Content and recruiters are always waiting to take advantage.

During the early process of radicalisation, secrecy and silence is often encouraged to avoid detection.

Along with that, early signs of involvement can sometimes mimic many other typical behaviours, so they often go unnoticed or are misunderstood by many parents and loved ones.

If this is something that you are experiencing, please don’t waste valuable time in looking for answers or by blaming yourself.

Instead reach out for support. Parents and loved ones being the people closest to the individual involved, are not always the best equipped to deal with this and even when we do try it is often without success.

Specialists that are trained in this field can offer you much needed advice and support that can help you to navigate this journey and provide help and support to your loved one as well.

Looking for help? Have a look at our online programme and also search Act Early, visit their website and if you need to talk to someone, give them a call.

Sarah – Exit Family Support