Self Care

 Being a parent or carer can be one of the most rewarding jobs in the world, but it can also be one of the most difficult.

Most parents and carers have moments of great pride. However, they also face times when they feel like they are failing or not doing enough.

So, what happens when a loved one becomes involved in extremism?

If a child gets involved in extremism, it can be very hard on a parent's mental and emotional health.

Many parents feel guilty, ashamed, or afraid. These feelings can make life very difficult for them and the people around them.

These feelings can severely and negatively impact their life and the life of those around them.

Parents often try to challenge extremist views, but sometimes this isn't enough. This is not a reflection of your parenting; it is just how radicalisation works.

Most people involved in extremism need professional help. This support helps the individual stay safe and helps parents through the process.

Professional help is very important, but a parent's involvement is just as vital. Experts are often othere for a short time, but parents will support their loved ones for the rest of their lives.

To get through this, parents and carers need to practice self-care.

Taking care of your own body and mind is a big part of getting through the coming weeks, months and years.

Self-care means doing things that protect your health while you support your child.

Social and Emotional Self-Care

When a child is involved in extremism, parents often hide away from others. This happens because they are afraid of being judged. However, hiding can make you feel even more lonely and scared. To help yourself, you can try these steps:

●      Stay connected: Talk to family and friends you trust. Having people to talk to is very important for your mental health.

●      Talk about your feelings: Find a safe place where you can regularly share and work through your emotions.

●      Spend time with your partner: Make time for each other without talking about the crisis. Focus on relaxing and being together.

Physical Health & Resilience

In a family crisis, it is easy to forget about your physical health. But your body needs energy to help you cope with stress. Here are some simple things you can do:

●      Sleep and rest: Getting enough sleep helps your brain refresh so you can stay focused and patient the next day.

●      Eat well: Eating regular meals and drinking enough water gives you the energy you need.

●      Keep a routine: Sticking to simple habits, like getting dressed and washing, can help you feel better about yourself.

●      Keep moving: Even a short walk or some light exercise can help reduce stress and improve your mood.

●      Take a break: Find a few minutes each day to do something you enjoy, like reading, listening to music, or watching a show.

Actively Seeking Support

Seeking help is a sign of strength, not failure. When you look after yourself, you have a better chance of helping your family. If things feel like too much, please reach out to someone you trust, or talk to a doctor or counsellor.

By doing this and practising self-care, you will be looking after yourself, but also be the best you can to help others.

Sarah - Exit Family Support